All Feel better and do better when you give them attention, affirmation and appreciation. The nest time you make contact with people, begin by giving them your undivided attention, affirm them and show your appreciation for them in some way. Then watch what happens. You will be surprised by how positively they respond. To build relationship, begin by listening to people’s life stories, their journey so far. Your genuine interest in them will mean a lot to them. Try to learn as much as you can about the people and do your best to win their hearts. Your relationships will define you. And they will influence your talent-one way or the other. Choose wisely. If you want to add value to people, you have to value them first.
We need to focus on finding people’s strengths and pointing them out. Most people have strengths that they rarely get to use. Those strengths may be job skills, knowledge, general abilities, personality characteristics, or other attributes. If you want to influence others, do not try to impress them. The people with charisma, those who attract others to themselves, are individuals who focus on others, not themselves. If you boil relationships down to the most important element, it’s always going to be trust- not leadership, value, partnership, or anything else.
When it comes to relationships, yourself image restricts your ability to build healthy relationships. A negative self image will even keep a person from being successful. Take an interest in people, this may sound too simple, but it really all starts here. You have to show people that you care about them by taking an interest in them. If you’re not a people person, that may be the first step you need to take. Look for value in every person.
Psychologist and New York Times best-selling author Phil McGraw state, “I always say that the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. You’ve got to be your own best friend first.”In 1937 the granddaddy of all people-skills books was published. It was an overnight hit, eventually selling more than fifteen million copies. That book was How to win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie. What made this book so valuable was his understanding of human nature. His simple wisdom was to remember and use a person’s name. We should be aware of the magic contained in a name. The name sets the individual apart; it makes him or her unique among all others. From the waitress to the senior executive, the name will wok magic as we deal with others. Remembering names can help enhance your personal image, improve your style, and most importantly, increase your impact on others.
Are we prepared for relationships? Are we willing to focus on others? Can we create a win-win relationship?
