Compromise With The Situation
By Dr. Archana Bharat on 07-11-2014
Compromises are part of every long-term relationship. Either due to differences in character or differences in perception, people tend to disagree with each other. However, if they truly love each other, there is no situation in which they are unable to find a solution which satisfies both of them. People who really want to be together will find ways to compromise. None of us likes to disagree but even less we like to compromise. People abhor compromise because for them it means to fail or, at least, to choose the better of two evils. By such attitude they defy the positive aspects of compromise. We should consider compromise as a healthy way to end conflict, and focus on restoring relationships damaged by conflicts. If you have to compromise during a difficult situation in a relationship, you are in a tough spot as it is not easy to cope with.
Consider how important the situation that you are compromising about is in your relationship. If you are dealing with a small but difficult issue, be generous when compromising as it is not worth damaging a relationship over trivial issues.
However, if you are compromising about a major issue, be ready to stand up for yourself. Make sure to be calm before the discussion about the difficult situation begins.
Think about the situation from your own as well as your partner’s perspective, as situations are perceived differently by different people. Sit down with your partner and begin an open dialogue. Be sure to discuss how you feel without blaming your partner. Discuss the reasons why you feel that a compromise is necessary so that he/she may be more willing to find a solution. Remember that compromise requires both give and take. It may take some time, but working together to resolve an issue will make you and your significant other into a stronger unit. Resolve the issue and stick to the resolution. You can easily destroy your credibility by agreeing to a compromise in a difficult situation and then changing your mind. You can save yourself from an unhappy relationship.
Another type of situation in which compromise is necessary is all kinds of political issues ranging from agricultural, industrial and international relationship. To reach agreement is highly important as it has a serious bearing on the future of the whole country.
Politicians have to forget about their own aspirations and keep in mind that their decisions will influence other peoples’ lives. One should always think twice not to miss the best in life, especially if it is obtainable by means of compromise. It establishes a happy and loving relationship and guarantees political and economic welfare of a country. Legal problems can also be solved through compromise.
About The Author
Archana Bharat MA, MPhil, PhD (University Gold Medalist) is an avid reader and writer, who is greatly influenced by the philosophy of Sant Kabir. Together with her husband Shri Bharat Bhushan she is contributing greatly to Noida unit of Kabir Peace Mission.