Much is said about “Gratefulness”. To be happy we should not expect anything in return for good done by us to others while we should always be grateful for whatever good has been done to us by others. It does not mean that goodness is not returned by goodness but that such an attitude insulates us from agony of disappointment, if this does not happen. Secondly, the laws of nature are perfect. Here, goodness never goes unrewarded while the evil never remains unpunished. It being so, why should we waste our energy in keeping account of our goodness? Quite often, our goodness is returned to us through unknown sources and in the same way evil is also returned. Therefore, we should confine ourselves to doing good deeds while being grateful for every good act done to us.
Here, the example of a coconut tree is most appropriate. A coconut plant needs watering and care for the initial two years. Then it takes care of itself and grows into a tree. Once it starts giving fruits, it continues to do so for more than fifty years and needs no watering. All the water given to it in the first two years is returned by it manifold in the form of coconut water. Such should be our attitude towards those who do good to us. Every little helpful deed, kind word or thoughtful gesture should be gratefully remembered and returned to the extent possible. Once we start doing so, our happiness multiplies and so do our friends.