Each marriage is a partnership and a true connection between you and your spouse. Keeping a marriage strong and healthy does take a lot of work but it is a work of heart when you truly love your partner. There needs to be both give and take in all marriages. If you want to be a good spouse, avoid being selfish and hold your spouse’s needs above your own. Things in a relationship should not be taken for granted so express your gratitude and show your spouse how you feel. Don’t forget to share. Marriage involves the celebration of good things, and the talking over of the bad things which helps you through tough times. Share your deep and personal feelings with your spouse. Be careful of your financial situation. It is vital that spending and savings be discussed so as to avoid conflict with one another. Keep track of what you spend and what you save.
Even if you can get everything accomplished by yourself, let your spouse know that he/she is really needed. Spruce up your spouse’s self esteem by showing your dependency on him/her.
Avoid overextending yourself or getting too emotionally involved in hobbies, communities and job skills that your spouse takes second place. It can create conflict and stress between a couple. Maintain a balance so that your marriage remains happy.
In a marriage there will always be habits that bother one or the other spouse. Don’t worry about little things and focus on the bigger things instead. There are bound to be difference of opinions but never go to bed without resolving a quarrel. Try suppressing your egos. Spend time with each other and care for the other’s needs.
Treat your spouse’s relatives with the same affection and respect that you treat your own.
Surprise your spouse with gifts and flowers and show that you love and care. Depending on someone other than your spouse for emotional support can ruin a marriage. Focus on the good things and ignore the bad things to make your marriage happy.