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Be A Good Friend

Friends play a most important part in most people’s lives. Friends might come and go in your life, they might make you laugh and cry, but most of all, they love you for who you are. It does not matter what a person looks like or what kind of clothes he wears, but its what’s on the inside that counts. A true friend will be there no matter what your situation is. Many of your favourite memories are likely to include times you have spent with friends.
Be there for your friends when they need you, not when you need something from them. Good friends do not call up people only to request a favour. Don’t wait for friends to call you. Make an effort to keep in touch with them. Everyone is busy, but if you want to maintain good friendships, you should be proactive about communications and respond to them in a timely manner. Never be part of the gossip train. If you talk about your friends negatively behind their back, it is one of the worst things you can do. Be happy at your friends' successes and celebrate with them. Always be gracious and supportive and go out of your way to help your friend. It is truly said – “A friend in need is a friend indeed”. A simple gesture such as a hug or a smile can show your friends that they are not alone and that you are there for them.
A good friend is someone you can trust and who won’t judge you, someone who won’t put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings, but will show kindness and respect, someone whose company you enjoy and whose loyalty you can depend upon.
A friend will laugh when you laugh, cry when you cry and stick around when things get rough. They will make you smile and accept you for who you are and just lend you an ear when you need to confide or complain. Caring and sharing is what true friendship is all about. Being a good friend and having a group of close friends surrounding you can surely increase your happiness. 

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 02-09-2017
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Help Sick People

Even close relationships can become strained when one of the pair becomes seriously ill. By reaching out to a sick friend, you not only provide much needed assistance, but also find ways to cope with the situation yourself.
A sick person probably feels miserable, so send him a card with a warm message to brighten his day a little.
If you take a road accident victim to the nearest Hospital, it may give him a new lease of life.
When a neighbour, friend or relative falls sick you can help them with simple tasks like cleaning and cooking. You may also prepare food and take it for them or bring their medicines.  Make sure they are not lonely or bored, be there for them and talk to them. Ensure they get plenty of fluids. Remain in communication with your sick friend. Very often, people are there with cards and calls when they first learn of a friend’s illness. After a few weeks, this kind of support can taper off, leaving the sick friend lonely and depressed. Keep the support coming, even if it is only by e-mail. It uplifts a sick person’s sprits when she knows that her friends are thinking of her.
Donate freely to a place that helps people who are sick. Collect books from your neighbourhood and take them to a hospital.
If you can spare some time to care for patients at a hospital it is the noblest form of social service.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 22-08-2017
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Respect Women

Women have held a high place in our society since ancient times. According to a famous Sanskrit saying Gods reside in places where women are worshipped.
However, during the medieval period there was a phase when women were suppressed and ill-treated and had to stay behind a veil. Gradually they started condemning these atrocities and with education came awareness. Now they can compete with men on equal grounds in all the fields of life. Today’s women are well-equipped to face any ordeal but still in many places they are looked down upon by their male counterparts. Some ruthless people kill a girl at birth while the birth of a boy is celebrated with great zeal.
A woman who makes so many sacrifices as a mother, sister, wife and daughter is often exploited and insulted. It is an irony of fate that a woman who gives birth to man is ill treated by him. Everyday there are instances of horrifying rapes. The culprits should be punished severely and women should feel safe.
We should always respect women. Husbands should make their wives feel secure by taking good care of them. Many men criticize their wives publicly and make fun of her for being overweight or not being a good cook. They stare at women with tight clothes and try to flirt with them. Such uncivilized behaviour should be checked. You should always consult your wife before taking any decision.
Keep your cool at all times and do not vent your anger just because you are bigger and louder than her. Never abuse or hurt her physically even jokingly. Make her feel loved and needed by talking to her often.
Teach your son to respect women as equals and make sure that your son contributes equally in the household chores as your daughter. Be a good role model for your child as a father. Respect your wife and respect her opinions. Do not use your wife as a personal slave. Ask for her help, but offer plenty of help in return. If you want your woman to change her attitude about you, then treat her with love and respect and see and feel the drastic change in her.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 03-08-2017
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Be Efficient

It is amazing how much time we waste, but if we are willing to make a few changes, our time can be used more efficiently. First and foremost, use logic and common sense and explore several options before proceeding. Accept and learn from your mistakes. Ask for help from someone who has more experience or skill. Be open to new ideas and amicable towards new perspectives. Speed your process and technique by planning ahead.
Make a list of ideas and even if you do not have time to proceed at the moment, you may have time to think about the most efficient procedure. When following instructions, read through the entire procedure before you begin and highlight important concepts. Learn the fundamentals before proceeding to the more complicated and use the proper tools and resources. A simple tool may be more appropriate for certain tasks. Always work in accordance with your priorities and finish the urgent tasks first. Be realistic in calculating the time required for each step. Set aside extra time for some unexpected delays. As you near the end of a step, begin thinking about the next. Divide your work into smaller portions and take breaks at intervals. A small project is less daunting and more easily accomplished. Stay focused because time can be wasted if you forget a step or get off track. Remove distractions to give your full attention. Complete one project before starting another for a sense of achievement.
Take a break as you need rest to replenish and rejuvenate your body and mind. Gently exercise to increase circulation and oxygen to your brain to think more clearly.
Limit your possessions as all possessions require your time and money to maintain. Get rid of unused and useless items. Buy time-saving, multifunctional and reliable items.
Organize your things and put everything in their proper place. This way you will not waste time in finding them whenever you require them.
Keep your thoughts focused on fruitful endeavours and be confident with your plans and proceed. Do the best you can and take pride in the quality of your work. Education allows you to adapt more easily. So offer your knowledge, skills and direction to others. Enjoy your spare time by doing things of your interest.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 06-07-2017
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Have Faith in God

Finding faith in God is one of the strongest desired desire for most people. They want to believe in God, but don’t want their belief to be based on blind faith. They sometimes wonder that if God is real, then why is it difficult to have faith in Him? Many wonder how to believe in God if He does not reveal Himself to them? They feel they do not have enough information or evidence to justify a decision to trust that God is real and then to commit themselves to a relationship with God.
The overwhelming view of modern science is that the universe began to exist roughly 14-15 billion years ago. Given the fact that the universe began to exist, it must have had a ‘cause’ that originated it. Skeptics and atheists counter that the universe may be on some space-time circular pattern, but the bottom line is that there must have been a ‘creator’ of this eternal universe. Only an independent, infinite, eternal and omnipresent cause is sufficient to account for the universe. Therefore such a being must exist. Life’s journey teaches us many things, but one of the major things we learn is that nothing stays the same and everything changes. Seasons change, day changes into night, people change from childhood to old age and time never stands still. Change happens every moment of each day but God never changes and remains the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. 
Learn to trust God, especially in areas you have never dared to trust him before and spend some time of solitude in remembering Him. You will feel the wonderful and miraculous things God will do for you. Meditate on His unchanging nature and pray, honour, revere and thank Him for everything. Run to Him for protection and safety through prayer and he will shower love and blessings on you, until you are filled with peace, rest and strength to live the life he has purposed for you.
God is omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscient. Let Him take charge of your life, direct your path and order your steps.
If you have faith in God and His creation, you will not do anything to harm anyone. In fact you will do your best to help your fellow human beings. You will also try to follow the right path which leads you to God and away from sin. God lives in each one of us and if we truly believe in Him and follow our conscience, we will know right from wrong. If all of us love and appreciate the beauty of nature that surrounds us and respect the will of God, this world will become a much more beautiful place. 

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 26-12-2014
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Be Positive

All thoughts, good or bad, are creative and our experiences in life are the result of habitual and predominant thoughts. What goes on in your mind can really determine your actions and decides whether you are positive or negative. If you always think negative thoughts, you will always turn out to be a negative person. It is better to think positive thoughts. Focus your imagination and efforts on becoming a positive person. It is much easier to effect change if you just put your mind to it and change your thoughts. We cannot always control things that happen in our lives, but we can, with some effort control what we think in our minds. The only thing between you and your desire to be happy is the fact that you think negatively. This little known fact keeps many from reaching their goal of happiness.
Smile at strangers and although it may seem a little weird, it actually makes you feel more positive and happy. You may even brighten that other person’s day with just a smile. Listen to positive music as it is a great way to remain positive. Volunteer or help others as helping others leads to a happier outlook on your own life. You will feel great and will evolve as a good person. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones and look for the benefit in every situation. There are pros and cons to most situations and you get to choose which one you will focus on.
The more positively you will act, the earlier you will reach your goals and get rewarded. 
People often wonder how to be positive in their thoughts and actions, especially when they are unhappy and unsatisfied or when life is difficult and tough. Like every other subject, the know-how of how to be positive can be learned and the skill developed. Begin by becoming aware of your thoughts and exchanging your negative thoughts with positive ones. It is our mind that creates the kind of life we live. We cannot always have control over our external circumstances, but we can control our inner world of thoughts. Focus your mind on the good things you already have in your life. Appreciate your friends and people in your life who have stood by you through thick and thin. Feel lucky to have them with you. Look for the good in every situation. There is always something good or at least something useful to learn, even in difficult or unpleasant situations. The true test of an individual to remain positive is when challenges become difficult. Stop criticizing others. With a little work and effort you can change how you think, which will automatically change your attitude, expectations, actions and reactions which will lead to more motivation, happiness and an improved life.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 19-12-2014
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Smile

Smiling people lighten up the room, change the moods of others and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with him and people are drawn towards him. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good. Frowns, sulky faces and grimaces push all people away. There is a famous saying “Frown and you frown alone, but smile and the whole world smiles with you”. Smiling changes our mood. Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There is a good chance your mood will change for the better. Smile can really relieve stress. It prevents us from looking tired, worn down and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you will be able to take appropriate action. Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, your immune function improves, possibly because your are more relaxed. 
A smile causes a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younge. Don’t go for a facelift, just try smiling your way through the day and you will look younger and feel better.
Smiling people appear more confident so they are more likely to be approached and promoted and are generally more successful in life.
Smiling helps you stay positive and makes you stay away from depression, stress and worry. Smiles improve your appearance and it is an inexpensive way to change your looks. Smiles make things right again and say much more than words can.  If you have hurt someone, said something harsh, feel lost, alone or down, a smile can set things right again. A smile lets other people know that you are prepared to be open to them and you are willingly agreeing to set things right where needed. Smiles create trust and rapport. They make other people feel good. A genuine smile is accompanied by a general glow, smiling eyes and a reassuring demeanor, that helps the viewer to be more at ease in your presence. A genuine smile comes from being happy, positive and from drawing your feelings from the heart. Love the people around you and spread happiness. When you smile, it tends to make others around you smile. Even in the most stressful times, a roomful of smiles can brighten everybody’s mood. A fake smile can make you look phony and nervous, so don’t try it. 
Smiling is a good long-term predictor of happier outcomes. Smiling attracts health, happiness, friends, success and a longer life. So always keep smiling.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 12-12-2014
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Avoid Overspending

Sticking to a budget can be extremely difficult, particularly if your finances are tight and you are not inclined to be particularly organized or disciplined. However, you can successfully curb excess spending and keep your budget intact by following certain tips. Oftentimes, people spend money on spur of the moment purchases that they really should be saving for something else. The easiest way to avoid this bad habit is to portion out your money every time you get a pay cheque. Put your bill money (including credit card payments), grocery money and funds for other necessities in the bank. Take out in cash the remaining money which can be considered spending money. Having the funds in cash can often help you monitor your spending better as people often go overboard when buying things with a credit card because they don’t see the account balance shrinking in front of them.
Next time you head out on a shopping trip, plan to run all your errands at the same time. If you have a list of places to go and things to accomplish, you will be less likely to spend extra time shopping or browsing for items other than those on your list. Check your list before you leave your house and eliminate anything you don’t actually need. It will not only help you stay on track but will most likely make your entire outing more efficient and effective and will help you avoid forgetting something important and having to make an extra unnecessary trip.
Many people over-spend because they feel that shopping eases stress or relieves depression and they often buy things they don’t really want.
You might want to buy a device with a slick new function and you may want to upgrade your existing device. Ask yourself whether you really need it before buying it. Don’t buy something because you are worried about hurting the sales person’s feelings. Beware of sale items which make you feel that you have to take advantage of a special deal or a limited time offer.
It has been aptly said that an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Do not allow your mind to wander unnecessarily as you might fall into the temptation of spending money to kill time. You could utilize your time in a creative and useful manner.
If you have a habit of overspending, you could let someone else take charge and shop for you instead. Encourage yourself to exercise restraint and buy only when you need something. Overspending may lead you into debt.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 05-12-2014
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Avoid Cellphone Abuse

The invention of mobile phones, their upgrades to high-end smart-phones with many popular and fascinating features, their easy availability in the consumer market and their affordability have ensured that almost every person we meet on the streets can afford to carry a cell phone. With more and more companies providing connections and SIM cards at extremely affordable rates, almost every person tries to get hold of it. Cell phones are indeed one of the greatest and most useful inventions of mankind. Cell phones help people to stay in touch with others even in different corners of the world. They come equipped with web cameras, audio and video recorders, mobile gaming, PDA, internet, video and music players etc.
But there is another darker and graver side to the story too. Widespread use of cell phones has made way for its rampant misuse too, especially by the youth, anti-social elements, terrorists and other criminals. Camera phones, that come with MMS enabled facilities are used to take unauthorized explicit photos, shoot pornographic videos etc. and spread them. Moreover, since SIM cards can be easily available and there is no proper facility for fool-proof checking of one’s records, these phones are being misused by terrorists for various activities.
The young generation is so engrossed in sending SMSes, talking over the phone and spending most of their time in the virtual world that in the real world they are gradually becoming ill-equipped and repressive. This leads to communication problems and also cause disturbances as one is always busy texting and receiving texts.
When you use a cell phone while walking through the road, you may not see a vehicle coming close to you and since its use in public places increases the reaction time, you may not get time to move away from danger. Mobile phone use while driving may cause accidents as cell phone conversation distracts the driver’s attention, increases reaction time and reduces visual field attention.
Use of mobile phones in gatherings, meetings, entertainment places etc. disturb others. Imagine, you are in a public place trying to concentrate on something or in serious discussion with your friend or enjoying a peaceful moment, when suddenly a stranger starts talking loudly on his cell phone. Your concentration breaks or your conversation ends or your peaceful moment is disturbed, you become a victim of cell phone abuse. You get irritable or annoyed with the caller. With increased use of camera phones and multimedia facilities, cyber crimes such as fraud, theft and forgery are increasing.
We should educate our children to use cell phones moderately. Mobile phones are both a boon and a bane. It is up to us to use them responsibly and make them a boon for the rest of our lives.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 28-11-2014
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Exercise Your Right To Vote

Voting is a right that throughout history, many have fought for and sacrificed everything to achieve. It is a right that millions of people throughout the world still do not enjoy. The right to vote is a privilege. By voting we express our opinions, participate in our society and help to determine our future.
Abraham Lincoln called democracy “Government of the people, by the people and for the people”. It means that we are not here to serve our government; but that our government is here to serve us and we have the right to decide who will represent us and how we want to be represented. We, as a democratic nation have one of the greatest rights any free people can have: the right to vote. The ultimate rulers of our democracy are not the President, Prime Minister or other ministers, but the voters of this country. You may sometimes wonder that with millions of people who vote in any election, does your vote really count? Perhaps you feel that if you can’t really make a difference why bother to vote. The truth is  that your vote does count and you do make a difference every time you vote. Your vote holds your local and national leaders responsible for the decisions they make. It sends a message about the issues you think are important. Your vote affirms our rights as free citizens to elect our government and take part in democracy. Without voting, there could be no democracy. The government you elect will decide whether to raise or lower taxes, make economic policies that could affect your job and decide when or if to use military force. Voting connects citizens with their political process, as well as to one another. By taking part in an election and by expressing our point of view, we help our democracy work. By agreeing or disagreeing with our leaders we show that the political system can accept different points of view and can resolve them. Voting helps to safeguard our freedom. A democratic community can only survive if its citizens see participation in the political process as a duty and a responsibility. It is critical to understand that if you oppose a particular person, go and vote against him otherwise you will be helping him to win. Good candidates must be supported, irrespective of whether they may win or not, so that they are encouraged rather than embarrassed to stand for election. Our single vote is not important, but collectively all our votes make a huge impact we need to show the political parties that we mean business.
Vote because you care about your community. Vote because you believe in free government and want to add your voice. Vote because it is the right thing to do and it will make you feel good to participate and have a say.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 21-11-2014