Life's Lessons


Philipp Budekin (22), nick named Philipp Lis (Fox), the ring leader of the notorious suicide game, ‘Blue Whale’, was punished recently by a Siberian Court, on charges of inciting young people to suicide. What that stirred my cool consciousness was his point of self-defence. He argued that he is clearing the world from biological wastes; he had a well thought purpose.
What is biological waste according to him? Is it a human being spending his time on Android? Could be. I think the Court also would have agreed to this argument to some extend. Otherwise he would have been imprisoned for all his life or sentenced to be killed, for he is alleged involvement in the death of more than a hundred preys so far, instead of the Russian equivalent of an open Jail which he got now and that too only for just three years.
Are we turning to biological wastes? This is one question which we have to ask ourselves now? If we look back to the favours we claim to be getting from this Android life, it could be something like a full time news updation or an every time entertainment world. It might be making us more social, more knowledgeable and more advanced.
But Budekin says that all these create biological wastes only!
Let us live great, just clearing ourselves from being biological wastes anymore, enslaved to Zuckerbergs and Steve Jobs.
There are many thousands of people who don’t have a Facebook account. They are smarter, no doubt at all! Keeping all these at its own time and place is something which we all can successfully do.

By Joseph Mattappally on 05-09-2017

How About a Vacuum?

Reality is not far away; it fills us. The moment we earnestly turn around or look inwards into the subtlety of existence we will see it in its full ambience. Quite recently, I happened to hear a millionaire speaking,
“Unless my only daughter would have come forward to take up this empire I had built, personally, my efforts would have been a great loss. With no legal heir to inherit, my investment of time and effort would have been a great blunder.”
Are we on this blunder road?
Vijaypat Singhania, ‘the Complete Man’ behind the 12000 crores Raymond Empire, endorses the theory of futility of efforts. He passed all his property to his son Goutham. We don’t know what happened in between them. The media says that Singhania is out without even a small hut to live.
All of you also might have read the story of a billionaire woman who turned skeleton?
She continued to be so, until his son came from USA, after a long break, just to see his mother living alone in Mumbai.
Also we heard the story of an IAS topper (2012 batch) who committing suicide. The reasons were traced to be family issues.
The one factor, which was missing in all these cases, was ‘Love’. It flows only to vacuums. This vacuum – we have to make it.
Sharing out all that we have.

By Joseph Mattappally on 25-08-2017

The Richest

Who is the richest man in the world? Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, Jeff Bezos, Amancio Ortega, Amancio Ortega, Mark Zuckerberg…… the list continues. Bill Gates who is on top, but does not agree with this order. He says that the richest is none of these. He narrates the story of the richest person whom he happened to see.

Many years ago, I had been dismissal and I had gone to New York airport. I read titles of newspapers there. I liked one of them and I want to buy it. But I didn’t have change (coin). I abandoned, suddenly, a black boy called me and told,

“This newspaper for you.” I said, but I don’t have change.

He said, “No problem, I give you free”.

After 3 months, I went there. Coincidentally, that story happened again and that same boy gave another free newspaper again. I said, I can’t accept. But he said,

“I give you from my profit.”

After 19 years, I had been rich and I decided to find that boy. I found him after one and half months searching. I asked him, do you know me? He said,

“Yes, you’re famous Bill Gates.”

I said, you gave me free newspaper in two times many years ago. Now, I want to compensate it. I am going to give you everything that you want. The Black young man replied,

“You can’t compensate it!” 
I said, why? He said,

“Because I gave you when I was poor. You want to give me when you are rich. So, how do you compensate?”

Bill Gates said, I think that black young man is richer than me.

If it is our attitude that makes us rich or poor, we need only a split second to become the richest in the world!

By Joseph Mattappally on 15-08-2017

The Universe and Me

I’m an Indian, born and brought up in a land of diversities. Whenever I hear a shout for equality, I ask myself if such a thing is ever possible. God could be Omnipotent, Omnipresent or Omniscient may be the creator of this omnivorous mankind too. But, can he ever create two equal situations or two equal things anywhere in this Universe? I don’t think so. Not two equal globes or stars haven’t been discovered. I haven’t seen two leaves or two trees of equal feature either.

The moment I realized that equality is a superficial concept, I came to the conclusion that it is diversity that we need for our growth. The more different we are from another the more we will tend to follow a personality of our own.

The more we accept the ‘present’ the way it appears to us the more we will be filled with gratitude, the only emotion that goes with the energy of love.

The prayer that God answered us, is the same prayer many others have been praying but went unanswered. The road we use safely every day is the same road on which many others were killed.

The place in which God blessed us, is the same place other people also worship Him, but their lives are still in discord. The bed we used in the hospital, from where we got healed is the same bed many other people died on. The rain that made our fields produce good crops, is the same rain that destroyed someone’s field. The same sun hardens the clay and melts the butter. The same man, the same wind, the same river, the same……..Yes I have a got a different mother for myself a different father for myself; all that I got are different. My Universe too !

By Joseph Mattappally on 02-08-2017

Divine Attitude

A lot is said on right attitude. Most people know that it is individual attitudes that decide ones future. Just a few days back I came across a touching folk story. It helped me to add more divinity to this ‘attitude’.

Here it is, ‘An old pilgrim was climbing the steep hills of Himalayas to reach a temple of his particular God. He was almost exhausted when he reached the temple. All his accumulated energy was hardly enough for him to climb the steps. He looked down the hills with awe and he noticed a young girl climbing the hills with a child on her back. She seemed to be an experienced mountain climber. Sometimes she changed to pushup postures and sometimes started in a plank position with arms and legs long, but every time with the child on her back.

He kept on watching them until they reached the top. The girl also was tired but not as much as he was. He asked the girl,

“How could you carry this weight, without a break?”

The girl looked at the old man with frustrated eyes. With an unhappy face, she replied,

“This is not weight, but my brother.”

At times of difficulty, I suggest that we change over to this Divine Attitude. I would also like to remind everyone that it may not be easy to keep identifying the appropriate situation where an upgradation is required for our attitude. There is an easy way. Make it a habit to use only Divine Attitudes, everywhere every time.

By Joseph Mattappally on 15-07-2017

Right Thinking

There is an old Buddhist saying which I may not forget ever. It says, “You are your own master; you make your own future.” This ‘You’ referred in the quote is nobody other than your attitude. With good attitude, life is colorful, full of Nature painted in exuberant colors of joy. Most important is that there is no competition either with the records of others or that of yours.

I have a crazy friend, who is some 40 years younger to me. He is different; he is open to all thoughts without considerations of good and bad or right and wrong. This attitude could fetch for him distinct knowledge on variety things. He recently wrote me:

‘New York is 3 hours ahead of California, but it does not make California slow. Someone graduated at the age of 22, but waited 5 years before securing a good job! Someone became a CEO at 25 and died at 50, while another became a CEO at 50 and lived to 90 years. Someone is still single, while someone else got married. Obama retired at 55, but Trump started at 70. Absolutely everyone in this world works based on their Time Zone. People around you might seem to go ahead of you, some might seem to be behind you. But everyone is running their own RACE, in their own TIME. Don’t envy them or mock them. They are in their TIME ZONE, and you are in yours! Life is about waiting for the right moment to act. So, RELAX. You’re not LATE. You’re not EARLY. You are very much ON TIME, and in your TIME ZONE Destiny set up for you. In conclusion don’t rush to get something and don’t be sad. Make today your day!!’

By Joseph Mattappally on 01-07-2017

In Finite Blessings

‘Be yourself’, ‘Be aware’……, every body gets a lot of advices like these. The problem of the day is that neither the giver nor the receiver knows what the exchanged information means. When I see beautiful quotes and adages flashing through social media boxes, I wish if at least the sender had understood the spirit of the message.

Either we understand it or not the Universe is built in such a way that every part of it, be it a tiny particle or a big mass of earth, be it active or inactive, gets a feeling that it is at the centre of the Universe and the whole universe exists just for that element or compound. Measure time by past and future; you will find yourself in the centre. Measure space by north and south; then also you will be in the centre. This is the case with everything in this Universe. Still we do not trust the Universe or the Power we call God, who we believe has created us.  We also end up in the disappointment of having received no blessings. The truth is that it’s because of our holdings and inhibitions that we could not access them.

Here is a story: A young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer’s showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted.As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautifully wrapped gift box.  Curious, but somewhat disappointed, the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible, with the young man’s name embossed in gold. Angry, he raised his voice to his father and said, “With all your money, you give me a Bible?” and stormed out of the house, leaving the Bible there.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized that his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him.  He had not seen him since that graduation day.  Before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things. When he arrived at his father’s house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart.  He began to search through his father’s important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago.  With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages.  And as he did, a car key dropped from the back of the Bible.  It had a tag with the dealer’s name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words PAID IN FULL.

By Joseph Mattappally on 15-06-2017

Love Matters

In the beginning there was only one thing – Nature. As humans with double consciousness took shape in cloths, Nature further split into Me and the Nature around Me. Words with reference to Nature were the first to form in every vocabulary. Me further split into Others and My People. It continues growing down and down. 
It wouldn’t have been bad if we had been closing into ‘self-love’; but what is happening is that we are moving towards ‘selfishness,’ which is its’ opposite in every sense. ‘Self -love’ holds the theory that everything in Nature is close-knit and we are supposed to consider everything here, though our concern is limited to a small area. In Selfishness Nature and the Self are two entities positioned at opposite poles. In selfishness we don’t like others having the same thing or pleasure – that is the problem! It shows that we are slowly losing our touch with Nature. 
Have anybody thought of what happens when we lose our touch with Nature? I just copy and paste a Social Media post. It reads:“If you lose touch with nature you lose touch with humanity. If there's no relationship with nature then you become a killer; then you kill baby seals, whales, dolphins, and man either for gain, for “sport,” for food, or for knowledge. Then nature is frightened of you, withdrawing its beauty. You may take long walks in the woods or camp in lovely places but you are a killer and so lose their friendship.” And finally you reach a point where you probably are not related to anything even to your spouse or children.

By Joseph Mattappally on 24-05-2017

On Right Attitude

decides everything and so we are always cautioned about being in the right
attitude. See, Rs. hundred is too much for a beggar but okay when it’s given
as tip at a fancy restaurant; hours at a gym look alright, but helping the mother
at home doesn’t. Praying three minutes turns boring but never a three hours
long movie. The length of a given unit of time also changes according to our
attitude. When we are in pain time is unusually longer. In all these cases, it
is our attitude that makes the difference.

Many times I have pondered on this
strange human behaviour. No satisfactory answer! This strange behavior is seen
not only among the commons but among the great uncommons too. Two poor starving
kids sitting on the pavement may not get even a slice of bread but a
realistic painting of them might fetch many lakhs of Rupees. It is because of this
human tendency to see everything through a sensually appreciable frame that we
have an established advertising industry which presents everything in a way
people easily loves to have.

Digging deep, we understand that our
attitudes are mostly shaped by our past experiences, especially those that we
had in childhood years. Because of these experiences we have lost our purpose
with all social activities – religions too. We have now swiping machines
decorating the idols and what we develop also is a swiping spirituality.
Somebody has embedded in most believers that religion is something to be
learned. What is more important in religion – experience, ethical codes or
knowledge? Certainly experience. Spiritual experiences are subtler and need not
be physical at all. Then why are there big institutes for Philosophy, Theology
and Ethics? It is because our attitudes have not changed.

It is right attitude that takes us to
the right experience. Right attitude can easily be identified by observing the
grade of consideration we apply, when deciding upon things where another thing
from Nature is involved. Always think in other’s favour. It is when your
sibling smiles that your peace buds blossom within you. Everything in this
Universe is created in a way that it cannot resist love or an expression filled
with it. A smile anyone gets makes his/her whole day bright. Give it to
everyone for free!

Joseph Mattappally

By Joseph Mattappally on 06-12-2016

My India

Desktops, Laptops, Palmtops, Rolltops… technology is advancing or evolving in a cracking pace. All innovations added together have made both the nation and the individual smart. But, this is not the India of my dreams. The more we embrace shortcuts and change our life styles to become smarter and smarter the more we become prone to disappointments of all sorts. India of my dreams is not a crowd luxury mongers but a family of self-confident people who live in a state of peaceful happiness and celestial awareness.  India had a bright past. All that the present world cries to have newly invented were not unknown to India. What is special with India was that we knew how to use knowledge in all its appropriateness. The theory of gravitation, which we attribute to Newton, was originally invented by Bhaskaracharya. (Read it in 'Siddhantha Sirmani’ > part ‘Bhuvanakosam’> Chapter 6. It was Aryabhatta who first said that the earth is round and it is rotating around the sun (read ‘Arybhatiyam’ which Aryabhata 1st wrote in his 23 year in AD 449). It was not Isaac Newton who first said that light is travelling. Instead, it was the great Vijayanagar Empire Guru, Sayanacharya, who prayed, ‘I bow to Thee Sun God who sends light at a speed of 2022 ‘yojana' in half of a ‘nimisha'. Remember that Varahamihira had calculated the longitude and latitude of the city of Alexandria to be 23.7 degrees in the year AD 553, while with Greenwich meantime also, the figure is almost the same – 23.3 degrees. In front of St. George Sanskrit University in Germany, we see a sculpture of our Indian Seer Panini. Know that German grammar is based on the book 'Ashtadhyaayi', which he wrote. Our Atharva Veda with all its 51 branches is a complete medical book. The father of Medical Sciences Hippocratus says in his book 117 times that he has heavily drawn from the Indian Mystics, Charaka and Susrutha. Surveys of Washington Post and New York Times say that 65% of the 40 plus people there do Suryanamaskar – the Indian Yoga. Patanjali talks about evolution well in his Natyasasthra. It is Chanakya in ‘Arthasasthra who talked about a one day break in seven days. In the Bodleian library of Oxford University, there are around 2000 numbers of palm leaf records kept at high security. Those 442 Rigveda books in Harvard University belong to India. Maxmuller who learned Sanskrit, translated very many Sanskrit books and finally wrote the Book of Oriental for himself agrees that the whole world will once stretch both its hands before India, just to know what they missed. The Persians, the Dutch, the Portuguese, the French, the English …., all invaded into our country – some with Semitic philosophies and some with Arabian disciplines, but most prepared to loot our open treasuries. Still, India is intact and stands against all recessions and famines. India was always a hard nut to crack, even for the gunmen of the West. How many of us know that India is the only continuing ancient culture of that kind? All other ancient civilizations are under mud, but India is not. Don’t you Indians feel proud of our rich heritage? But now, it is very sad to say that the purpose of all social workers, religious or political, seems to be looting each other. It pains me heavily. I envision an India in which God Consciousness is a common gift and where parents are honoured, teachers are respected, leaders are followed, siblings are served and the entire humanity is loved unconditionally. Just one determined human being is enough to transform this great nation back to its original ambience – its’ You!

By Joseph Mattappally on 29-11-2016