A woman came to see Vinoba Bhave, the well-known social leader in India, and said, "I am very unhappy." Vinoba asked, "What is the matter?" In a voice full of grief, she replied, "My husband is an alcoholic. He drinks everyday and abuses me. Sometimes, he beats me up. My life is hell."
Vinoba asked, "When he gets drunk, what do you do?" She replied, "I get upset. Earlier, I used to scold him. That did not help. So now I have started to observe fasts." "You do not eat or drink during the fast?" asked Vinoba. "No," she said, "I eat fruit." Vinoba said in a simple natural tone, "Oh, then your husband must get very upset. Your eating fruits must have increased the household expenses." The woman kept quiet. Tears filled her eyes. Vinoba said, "Nobody can be made to give up wrong things by our getting angry or by our giving up food. We can change others through love and patience. The love that can make the difference comes from within. Our hearts should be pure. If there are bad feelings in our hearts and we show insincere love, it makes matters worse." Purity of heart is something which is badly misunderstood.
