The Art of Refusal

By Dr. Sunil Ji Garg on 03-12-2014

He is in his eighties. He is extremely talented. With my recommendation he approached an International school owner to experiment with his innovative language teaching skills. The lady school owner was impressed. She gave an assignment to this old gentleman. She even arranged home pick and drop service in her school van. The routine continued for four days and on fifth day the van didn’t come. He tried to contact the school, but no genuine answer was given. He understood that the school doesn’t want his services anymore. He narrated this whole story to me and therefore comes this post for you.
The art of refusal has gone this wild these days. A common practice is seen when a person stops picking the phone, when he starts avoiding someone. He will never-ever talk to you straight that he doesn’t want to talk to you anymore. He will make you understand this by his wild gestures like this. I am using the word ‘wild’ as to my knowledge this mechanism of avoiding is typically used by some wild animals. 
The art of refusal that doesn’t hurt other person’s feeling is a rare gesture these days. People may be much more networked owing to whatsapp, facebook and twitter, but somewhere their own network inside needs a re-engineering. Sometime people do it as a habit and they do not even know that they are hurting someone’s feeling. Some other people do it deliberately also. The first breed might have a little chance to get them reengineered. The deliberate attempters are definitely the harder ones to crack. Let’s hope that the best changes are yet to come.

About The Author

Dr. Sunil Ji Garg

Dr. Sunil Ji Garg, presently Managing Director of Sunmitra Education, Lucknow, is a holistic healer, writer, social activist, scientist and individuality development trainer, who is noted for his commendable contributions in Data-Communication, Software Engineering and Multimedia.