I am Sorry !
By Fr. Joe Eruppakkatt SSP on 05-09-2011
'I am sorry'! In these three magic words we have one of
the hardest, rarest and most profoundly human expressions in English language.
It is hard to say 'I am sorry' because it implies many things: that I have hurt
you, that I take responsibility for my behaviour, that I am truly repentant of what I have
done, that I shall never repeat such behaviour again, that I hold your person,
your presence, your friendship and your dignity in high esteem.
It is a rare expression as it requires a strong
character and personality to face the person we have hurt, look straight into
his eyes, and acknowledge our mistake. To do this we need to rise above our ego
and personal pride. It is hard because it is in effect an acknowledgement that
we have been wrong and the other person was right in this particular situation.
Saying sorry as a matter of habit may be too common and easy, but being truly
sorry and mean what we say is rare to find.
It is an expression that needs to be so much part of our
human behaviour because as humans we all make mistakes, sometimes big,
sometimes small. As social beings we hurt each other. We disagree on things and
push those disagreements to quarrels and fights. We, sometimes knowingly, and
other times impulsively, speak or do things that bring damage to the
reputation, good standing and career prospects of others. But, having done
this, we all do posses the capacity to rise above our human weakness in
humility and acknowledge our mistakes. Being sorry for our actions may not undo
the harm, but it can repair the damage to a great extent. It's human to err, but it's divine to be
sorry for our mistakes, just as it is divine to forgive, because a repentant
heart is a gift from God.
Here's a beautiful expressions of being sorry, found on
a 'sorry card':
“Sorry for hurting you. What I did was foolish and impulsive.
If I could take it all back, I would do this instant. I truly did not mean to
hurt you in any way. Please forgive me. I am sorry.”
About The Author
Fr. Joe Eruppakkatt SSP is a Catholic priest of the Society of St Paul. He has been engaged in media activities for several years as General Editor of ST PAULS Mumbai. He believes in God's gift of beauty and goodness in every human being, in nature and in every religious tradition, and shares his views and opinions with others.