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Dr. Archana Bharat

Archana Bharat MA, MPhil, PhD (University Gold Medalist) is an avid reader and writer, who is greatly influenced by the philosophy of Sant Kabir. Together with her husband Shri Bharat Bhushan she is contributing greatly to Noida unit of Kabir Peace Mission.

Ask For Forgiveness

Truthfully saying that you are sorry and asking for forgiveness is a difficult task. Pride gets in the way most of the time. It becomes the stumbling block. When you get angry with someone and a confrontation leads to the digging up of past problems and an exchange of harsh words, both of you will feel hurt and you may end up not talking to each other for a while. Sometimes you really do not intend to say hurtful words, nor do you want to even utter those words because they can be meaningless but they just come out in the heat of the argument.
Asking for forgiveness releases a person from the agony of being hurt and burdened. It does not really matter who started the argument. The main thing is that someone should be brave enough to make the first approach and ask for forgiveness. If someone else asks you for forgiveness, be generous enough to forgive. Think of an apology as a commitment to the relationship rather than an act of weakness. Acknowledge your actions without making excuses. Share your feelings about what happened but avoid blaming, exaggerating or saying empty words. Listen patiently to the other person’s response without getting defensive. Be honest and only apologize for things you truly feel responsible for. Don’t apologize just to make an unpleasant situation go away.
Practice what you are going to say until you are comfortable to say the words. You do not want to start your apology only to say the wrong things and start another argument. Take responsibility for your part, how you hurt the other person rather than give any attention to how they hurt you. Be vulnerable and reveal your own sadness or remorse for causing them pain. This fosters emotional healing. Say it in writing if a personal confrontation is scary. Offer to make amends if appropriate. Do not be discouraged if you aren't completely forgiven the moment you apologize and give the other person some time to sort out his or her feelings. In the meantime, seek every opportunity to do good to that person even if he is stubborn.
There is no need for an emotional outburst. Sincerely ask for forgiveness when the other person has had time to calm down and is willing to listen. Strive to avoid the causes that brought about the problems.
Asking for forgiveness is a sign of strength. It should not be considered a weakness. There is a famous saying – “To err is human, to forgive divine”. It helps repair relationships, strengthens family bonds and relieves your heart and mind.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 03-10-2014

Be A Good Employer

Becoming a good boss is not something that can happen overnight. It is an ongoing learning process with struggles along the way. But once you are able to achieve a perfect balance between the needs of your company, your employees and yourself, you know that you are on your way to becoming an effective and good employer whom people respect and revere. A good boss needs to possess certain qualities. He should have leadership skills because there is a significant difference between a follower and a leader and hence all good employees cannot be good bosses. A good employer treats all employees as valuable members of the organization, from the file clerk to the CEO. He provides consistent benefits and fair compensation plans commensurate with market and contribution. He treats all employees with respect and courtesy and requires that the same treatment be accorded at all levels of the organization. He realizes that because employees are humans too, some things are truly beyond their control. So if something goes wrong, allow for some human limitation but your tolerance should not be abused by your employees by giving mediocre results.
It takes courage to give out commands and manage a large group, especially to take on full responsibility of your employees’ actions. Hence you should be very selective in finding the right kind of employees. If you end up with people who will put your name and reputation in danger, your company will be in serious trouble. So, check the background of all your potential employees. Be optimistic and smile all the time. You cannot expect your employees to produce excellent results if they see you sulking all the time. You have to realize that teaching people takes a lot of time and effort, so you have to exercise utmost patience.
A good employer has genuine concern about his employees and realizes that they too have needs and feelings. Recognition, raise in workers’ compensation or rewards are some of the best ways to motivate your employees but you have to be tactful and keep them in discipline. During company outings, do not hesitate to show your employees the fun side of you. Joke and laugh with them and talk to them. Provide a learning environment for all employees to increase employee satisfaction. The rapid rate of change in technology demands that employees continually enhance skills and knowledge. Have an open door policy. A good boss has multitude rewards. You earn the loyalty and respect of your employees and your company progresses.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 19-09-2014

Pay Your Taxes

Taxes are the legal claims of the government of a country and all citizens are morally and legally bound to pay their fair share of tax. A large percentage of people who pay tax think as if the government is trying to steal their hard earned money, but it is not true. Money collected from taxes helps a country to become stronger and helps government provide a variety of services to its citizens. People earn lots of money using the prosperity of the state and prosper in their life. It is therefore, the right of the government to get its share from your income that you have made with the resources of the state. Therefore, everybody should pay his or her taxes regularly and willingly.
The government provides many services with our tax money. The infrastructure projects like roads, bridges, dams, railways which are available to the society, utilize tax money. Money collected from taxes is also used to provide public security like police, fire safety, army, navy and air force and to buy arms for them. Keeping roads clean, water treatment, street lights, trash removal and maintenance of public parks requires a lot of money. The government also provides some level of free or subsidized health services to its citizens including preventive immunization shots, disaster relief etc. Free education is also imparted to poor students. Maintenance of historic monuments, government aid, emergency relief, elections, agriculture, commerce, energy, urban development, treasury, judiciary are all funded by the tax money paid by us.
Taxes are imposed in many forms, for example: income tax, sales tax, excise, toll, house tax etc. Usually people with higher income pay a higher percentage of tax than the people with lower income and those with very low income do not have to pay tax.
Resisting taxes has risks. It could result in penalty and prison time and could complicate life immensely.
Chanakya stressed: “Taxes should be collected the way a honey bee collets the honey from the flower”. The flower is willing to give up its sweetness, but the bee also takes care that only a little is taken without hurting the flower. Regular tax payers get many financial advantages from the government and are respected by the government as well.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 05-09-2014

Give Encouragement

Many of the greatest achievements begin with the empowering words of encouragement. When someone is feeling insecure, unsure or apprehensive about taking constructive action or pursuing favourable opportunities, you should convey to them that you believe that they are capable and that their efforts are worthwhile. Everyone has times when they could use some support or motivation from others. There is nothing better than the encouragement of a good friend.
Look for someone you know who has been disappointed or is going through a tough moment in life. Showing an interest in them can be very encouraging even if there may not be anything you can do to improve or fix their situation. If someone dear to you is putting in a great effort or doing a great job, you just have to take notice and show an interest. Your encouragement will reinforce the actions of that individual and may give him the strength to do even greater things in future. Encouragement can do wonders for students who wish to achieve in class.
In addition to encouraging someone through a personal conversation, hand written notes are also a great way to encourage someone. Keep the note positive and do not criticize in anyway. The note should genuinely express your true feelings. Encouragement is most effective when you say things that you really mean. Undue flattery may produce unrealistic expectations and ultimately cause more harm than good. Honestly expressing your desire for the person to succeed can help motivate them to take action. You should indicate confidence in their abilities and focus on what can be accomplished.
When someone you care about, has a stressful situation, tell them that it will be okay. Knowing that someone believes in them can help someone overcome the obstacles in their life. If you see someone faltering or thinking negatively about something, give them something positive to think about instead. By changing their attitude from negative to positive, you will enable them to think positively about other things as well.
Always be willing to share a smile. When times are hard, the toughest thing to do is smile. By sharing your smile, you are helping them to overcome the negative feelings and probably they will smile in return. You can encourage people by giving them a hug or helping them with something. It can keep them from falling into depression and put a bright smile on their face.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 29-08-2014

Do Not Criticize

One key to a successful life is – “Do not criticize anyone”. When you criticize others you weaken yourself. If you truly want to be successful, you should begin by being honest with yourself, recognizing your own behaviour. When we recognize our behaviour we are on the path to correcting it. Everyone who corrects his own behaviour is inevitably successful. The person who often blames others for his failures and never recognizes his own self destructive behaviour will not be successful.
Criticism is useless because it hurts the pride of others and provokes resistance. It provokes an inevitable reaction against its author. The person who knows how to live without criticizing does not provoke resistance or reaction on the part of his fellow beings and consequently, creates an atmosphere of success and progress. On the other hand, those who do criticize others have many enemies. The world is full of critical people who find faults and are irritable and sometimes intolerable. Their bad behaviour makes them impatient, angry, egotist, proud and arrogant and they have no patience.
As employers they become the executioners of their employees. Workers who are compelled to work under such fault finding people end up hating the job and the employer. No discontented worker works his best under duress. Many times enterprises fail because the workers are discontented, dissatisfied and do not work efficiently because of the criticism they must endure. On the other hand workers who seek any occasion to criticize their employers, sometimes end up losing their job. Employers have pride and vanity and feel offended when criticized by employees. The one who wants to correct others should begin by correcting himself. This gives better results. Try to see the best in all human beings and take responsibility for your actions to lead a happy, healthy life.
Sometimes people who criticize have an upper hand on the people with more knowledge of the subject. It is only because people do not want to pick a fight with them when they are yelling loudly and are irrational. In fact they are the ones who are misrepresenting themselves and fail miserably. We need to analyze our own life and actions before criticizing actions of others.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 22-08-2014

Keep Your Promise

Very few people realize, or wish to accept that one of the worst experiences in the life of an individual is a broken promise. We all have moments when we make a promise to someone and cannot keep it, for a variety of reasons. However, when there is a definite pattern in breaking promises, it suggests that the person making the promise is trying to please too many people, perhaps to impress, but failing miserably.
Promises mean a lot to people because they suggest appreciation, value and empathy and carry some pleasure in fulfillment. The effect of broken promises is resentment, undue anxiety, missed opportunities and lack of trust in future promises for one person and a chain of guilt and feelings of incapacity and inadequacy for the other. Broken promises also give a feeling of regret and are rarely associated with success. The most successful people tend to value others and keep their word because it demonstrates integrity – a key attribute for achievement. If not handled sensitively, broken promises can cause ill feeling, damage friendships and even lose business.
Keeping your promises is a way to live your life with integrity. You should especially keep your promises with children. Sometimes parents try to soothe a child’s temper and placate him by making false promises which they have no intention of keeping. Children are too gentle and vulnerable and a broken promise can cause devastation, hurt, grief and frustration in them.
If you find yourself prone to breaking promises, try to limit yourself to genuine promises which you can keep. Do not be forced or pressured and commit yourself only when you feel like it. It is our desire for approval which makes us promise to too many people and when we end up keeping none of them, it makes us feel miserable and we lose our credibility and friends. Be realistic and make promises according to your capabilities. If you value someone’s friendship, or truly respect them, or you value your customers don’t make promise you can’t keep. We can only command respect and be appreciated when we are consistently trustworthy and choose someone else’s interests over our own.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 15-08-2014

Utilize Time

Time is one of the most precious things in this world. Once it is lost, you cannot get it back. Time and tide never wait for anybody. Time is life and money and if you waste it you are wasting your life and money. If we know how to manage time, which is a precious limited resource, we shall be able to lead a happy life.
First of all, you should list all the tasks you need to get done in order of their priority. Set your goals long term and short term to enable you to decide which tasks contribute to your goals and which don’t. Where difficult tasks exist, break them into smaller tasks with smaller goals to make them less cumbersome. Critical and urgent matters should be dealt with immediately. You may delay jobs where immediate fulfillment is not necessary. You may take short breaks during difficult or mundane chores.
Do not waste time as every minute is precious and doing whatever portion you can of your listed tasks brings you closer to the finish line. Review your schedule against what you have achieved to assess your planning and scheduling.
Time slips like sand through your fingers. It always moves forward and does not move backward. If you do not keep up with time, it creates lots of problems. An employee always coming late may lose his job. A student always coming late to school may fail in his exams. If we are late, we may miss our bus, train or plane and be put into a lot of tension and stress. If we get up late and do everything hastily, specially swallowing food, it may lead to indigestion.
The person who wins is the person who properly utilizes his time. Avoid watching excessive T.V., sleeping too much, watching long matches, gossips, junk mails and unnecessary phone calls. Also avoid arguments and unnecessary meetings. Whenever you have free time, relax, have fun or spend it with your loved ones to decompress from a stressful day. Exercise or take a walk to keep fit.
Time management is just a discipline – a way of life. It comes with practice and can be your greatest asset – a strategy that helps you make the best use of your time.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 09-08-2014

Use Solar Energy

The sun produces a tremendous amount of energy and will continue producing it for billions of years. Hence solar energy is considered the ultimate renewable energy. The other sources of energy, especially oil are fast depleting so it is essential to look for another sustainable source of energy. In future, solar energy will be the largest source of global energy for a number of reasons.
Many people choose to use it due to its positive environmental impact, financial benefits and energy independence. Global warming and climate change are major issues facing the world today and you can be part of the solution by taking advantage of solar energy. Unlike fossil fuels, solar energy doesn’t produce the harmful pollutants responsible for increasing the greenhouse effect which leads to global warming.
Another key factor for homeowners considering solar energy is the financial aspect. The financial benefits of solar energy can be seen in reduced electricity bills as you use solar energy for electricity, lighting, heating and cooling.By using solar energy, you will reduce your dependence on the utility companies as you’ll be able to produce your own solar power electricity. Solar energy also gives you a level of reliability and security that other energy sources can’t match. When your neighbours do not have power due to an outage, you will not be affected since your home generates its own electricity and heat. People who are already taking advantage of today’s solar energy technology are saving money and saving the environment and can feel good about being responsible global citizens.
There are four basic uses of solar energy – solar electricity, solar heating, solar cooling and solar lighting. Electricity can be generated by using photovoltaic solar cells which are combined into solar panels and connected to an inverter to produce electricity.
Solar energy can also be used to heat your home, domestic water and swimming pool. Solar heating systems collect, store and distribute solar energy. Solar cooling takes advantage of the sun in the hot summer months and use its energy in cooling devices. Solar energy lighting can be used to enhance your home’s outdoor features or to provide natural interior lighting. The future of solar energy is indeed bright.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 01-08-2014

Do Not Use Plastic

More and more people around the world are becoming aware of the environmental hazards, surrounding plastic bags. Considering their somewhat placid appearance, the impact of plastic bags on the environment can be devastating. Plastics are not biodegradable material. Instead, they break up into smaller pieces of plastic until eventually becoming plastic dust. They are dangerous for small children who may wear them over their head and suffocate. Animals that eat them may become sick or even die. Discarded plastic bags blow around with the wind and litter. 
They may end up at sea through garbage dumps at seaside. Plastic degradation at sea takes between 45-1000 years. Plastic bags are recyclable but people need to reuse them or donate them to thrift stores where they can be reused. It takes oil to produce them and even more oil to recycle them. Burning plastics results in toxic ash. 
Reusing plastic water bottles can be risky as they have been proven to release harmful chemicals, especially when heated. Bottled water is transported around the country in trucks that are not refrigerated. It means that during summer, bottled water may be toxic. The softer, flexible plastic used in bottles breaks down easily, releasing lead into your beverage.
Lead pipes of yesteryears have been replaced by PVC pipes in order to stop polluting the ground with lead, but over time they are guilty of causing the same contamination they are supposed to prevent.  It takes a very long time for plastic to degrade. It piles up much faster than it goes away and when it goes away, its chemical make-up continues to poison the environment.
Measures should be taken to check the use of plastic since it is not healthy for our environment. Scientists are at a loss how to find a solution and clean up the mess that has already been made.
We can start by not buying bottled water and use other water purifiers instead. Start using paper bags instead of plastic ones. The manufacture of plastic bags add tons of carbon emissions into the air annually. They cause thousands of marine animal deaths. Fortunately environmentalists are taking the initiative to deal with the detrimental impact of plastic bags by either banning or discouraging their usage. Let us join hands with them.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 25-07-2014

Be Truthful

Lies confuse issues, adversely affect decision making, breed mistrust and can have devastating consequences when the truth is finally revealed. However, the most damaging lies are the lies we tell ourselves. 
Being truthful at all times brings a certain air of peace. One can just spot the extremely truthful people in a crowd of strangers just by the light of tranquility around them. Lying is a sin and if you are a person of high morals, a lie will gnaw at you like cancer. You may inflict great pain on someone by your lies.
There is a famous saying ^^lR;eso t;rs** which means “truth always triumphs”.
It is always better to show your true feelings to your partner rather than pretend to him/her. Speak up so that you both may have an opportunity to compromise. It will help you to know your partner better, strengthen your bond and move you closer towards true, lasting intimacy. Never hold back for fear of being rejected. It is better to be rejected for sharing your truth than to be accepted for living a lie. Holding back your deepest longings is, in a sense, living a lie, which can sour your relationship.
Sometimes, simply voicing your truth is enough to make you experience a sense of relief. Reveal your truth sweetly so that it may not culminate in a fight and give others a chance to speak the truth even if their opinion is different from yours. Be brave and face the truth. Living truthfully is not easy but it is worth it. Make your relationship a safe heaven in which both of you can speak your truths honestly. Speaking and hearing truth takes patience. You may face many misunderstandings along the way but it is natural and O.K. Do not be afraid to speak the truth. 
In this world of information and sensory overload, people and products and ideas clamour for our attention. The strategy of presenting ideas better and louder and faster doesn’t work. Only truth works, as it is beneficial to all and builds goodwill. We may be able to make our point more effectively by stretching the truth, glossing over inconvenient facts or belittling other people and their concerns, but we’ll lose out in the long run. Speaking the truth makes us worthy of other people’s respect. It is the foundation of any worthwhile relationship and in this age of hype it sets us and our message apart.

By Dr. Archana Bharat on 18-07-2014